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Incapable

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AnxietyHello Anxiety, My Old Partner

I awoke this morning with a pain in my upper belly. I am on vacation with a friend, about to discover the joys of Sedona. I have no apparent worries, nothing I have to do, nowhere I have to go! Yet, I awoke with this pain. Diving into the pain, I realized it was linked to anxiety, that old sidekick. Even after all these years of learning about myself, and especially all the work I’ve done around the anxiety, it still rears it’s annoying and sometimes painful head in unknown situations such as this.

When I planned this trip, it was with a bit of trepidation. I frequently feel fear when scheduling new things, and especially when a different locale is involved. But I felt ready for the challenge and eager for the experience of exploring beautiful Sedona!

Today, after a minute or so of feeling the stomach ache, and realizing it was related to anxiety, I asked my spirit guides, “What is this?” And their response was “You feel incapable.” Yes, I feel incapable of any and everything! Thankfully, I had a concrete answer! There have been times when I’ve felt so anxious, I couldn’t hear myself think, let alone hear an answer from my guides! This time was different.

Dive Into the Feeling

I knew what to do. I dove into the feeling again. I said to myself, over and over in my mind, “I don’t feel capable. I don’t feel capable. I don’t feel capable…” and my body relaxed. Why, you may be wondering, does this work at all?

The body and the mind want acknowledgment. What am I feeling? The truth, to my physical and emotional being, is that I feel incapable. It’s a matter of stating the obvious. If I deny my core feeling of being incapable, nothing happens. That’s a form of inner resistance. I know that the deep feeling of being incapable, that harkens back to much earlier times in my life, is the next part of me that needs acceptance.

You may also be wondering, “What about using positive affirmations?” Yes, sometimes affirmations work because they distract us from the uncomfortable feeling. But in my experience, affirmative sayings don’t work as well or as fast to calm me. And the fact that I have secreted cortisol, which makes the feeling more intense, and makes me want to run away from the “saber tooth tiger” of my mind, doesn’t help. Cortisol is a fight or flight hormone that, once secreted, takes about 20 minutes to dissipate in the body. Affirmations have a hard time cutting through physiology!

Acknowledge the Feeling and Set Yourself Free

So I stated the obvious to myself. I don’t feel capable. And what happened within a few minutes was that my pain disappeared and I fell back asleep. I know this because a few minutes later, due to the initial cortisol spurt from my adrenals, I woke up again, and my pain was gone. I was so glad. And I kept repeating how I felt, “I don’t feel capable.”

After about a minute or two of stating the obvious feeling of being incapable, and because I felt so good now, I decided I was ready to switch over to a positive affirmation that resonated well with me. What came into my mind was “I am full of Light. Light fills every part of my being. I am a being of Light and Love.” I repeated that affirmation and took the healing to an even higher vibration, to joy. And then the thought came to me to share this experience with you.

I look forward, now, to a day of joy and discovery. I feel excited. And I hope, in my heart of hearts, that this experience of mine helps you, too, to treat yourself with gentleness.

Namaste.

Eye of the Storm

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Eye of the Storm - dealing with an emotional storm

We frequently find ourselves in the midst of an emotional storm. It can be through our own doing, or other people’s dramas that affect us. I’m going through one right now.

Cleaning up a hoarder’s house is a disgustingly horrible task. Due to a death in the family, we find ourselves cleaning up the mess amassed over years of mental illness and physical debilitation.

This deceased person had been a challenge to deal with for many years. Cleaning up this hovel brings up emotionally charged grievances for many in my family. Their challenge is to see it for what it is and constructively integrate their past experience, and their issues with this family member, into their psyches. My challenge, however, is to see their distress and help where I can, knowing the process is important for their growth, while not trying to make it all better for them. How do I do this?

Be a Witness

I repeatedly, on good days, draw myself into the center, or the eye, of this storm by remembering who I am and standing back to watch the storm swirl around me. It seems that if I take one step into the swirling debris of emotional upheaval affecting my loved ones, I begin to spin. This spin cycle results in feeling bad, forgetting my inner core being and my connection to Source, and forgetting that I am in the arms of the loving Universe. That feeling inevitably leads to anxiety. So, step one is to go into the eye of the storm by becoming a witness instead of a participant, and stepping into my heart of love.

Observe and Process with Love

The next part of the equation is to sit quietly and look at this turmoil. I ask myself what, in particular, is most distressing to me. I ask myself what, about this situation, brings up feelings of any past traumas in my own life. The part of me that was not able to fix hurtful situations in the past – in this case, my experience of being bullied as a child, is what came up for me. So I give that part of me, that innocent part that suffered that trauma, love. I do this by putting my hand on my heart and giving myself love and Reiki. It calms my inner storm.

Regardless of whether I can figure out the answer to my triggered emotion right away, this process allows me to get back to my core self, my heart of love, the Eye of the Storm. I know that from this vantage point, I can see clearer what’s in front of me, and what’s affecting me. This act of loving my heart, gives me the feeling that I can now move constructively in a positive direction from my center.

Define and Confine

From this place of watchfulness and self-love, the storm around my loved ones seems more defined, instead of feeling like a huge cloud of despair with no way out. The witness, which I become, can watch the sadness and anger of others and send love into the situation. More importantly, the witness who is present with the moment can have peace.

Embrace the Freedom an Emotional Storm Delivers

Now I find myself standing inside the storm, watching it, and at peace. I know from my own experience with emotional challenges, that all this is as much for the healing of each of my family members, as it is for me. I know that the challenges of life are here, ultimately, to free us from our own past traumas and fears. Weathering an emotional storm in this way, brings inner freedom.

Surrender

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Surrender your heart

Surrender and grow

What would life feel like if you knew, deep down in your bones, that everything that happens to you is orchestrated specifically for your growth? If you really KNEW this, would you be upset when things don’t go your way? Would you feel the need to put up a fight against each
perceived injustice? Would each illness be something to resist and eradicate post haste? Would all your struggles and hurts of the past be relegated to the “I’m trying to forget that ever happened” trash heap of the mind?

Trust that everything happens for the highest good

For me, anxiety has been the default emotion much of my life. If I wasn’t happy, I was probably feeling some amount of anxiety. I know now that I would not be anxious at all if I trusted that everything is here for my highest good. Happily, I’m here to say that it’s getting much better for me, as I process and release fear, and love my innocent and vulnerable heart. As I become more aware of how I’m held by Spirit in an embrace of love, anxiety has no hold. It’s a process of learning that I can trust in each situation.

Freedom from victimhood

The frequently asked question, “Why do bad things happen to good people?,” can be answered with another. I would ask, instead, “Why judge if what has happened is good or bad?” Do we really know, ultimately, what is good and bad for us? Haven’t the trials and tribulations in our lives been our biggest teachers? Is anything ever totally bad or totally good? When something is judged as bad or negative, does that help us deal with it better? As Matt Kahn says in his book, Whatever Arises, Love That, A Love Revolution that Begins with You, “…the heart of surrender frees you from viewing your life through the eyes of victimhood.”

What does your heart want to surrender now?

Treating Anxiety with Reiki — the Effects Are Real… And Medically Approved!

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Free from anxiety with reikiAs an anxiety sufferer, I can attest to the healing effects of Reiki for the psyche. We know that anxiety truly is a body/mind/spirit condition, and Reiki addresses all these areas!

Reiki helps clear unwanted patterns and conditioning

Having undergone psychotherapy and having used medication for 12 years for anxiety, I can vouch for the efficacy of these modalities! I’ve used EFT tapping and acupuncture as well, which also are very beneficial. The added benefit of a self-Reiki practice has been a literal godsend to me! Practicing Reiki daily since my attunement in 2007 has kept my awareness of Spirit moving in my life constant. It works deeply to help me clear unwanted patterns and conditioning, which are big components of anxiety. And it brings peace.

Break the negative energy

When my clients come in to see me for anxiety, I scan their energetic field. The aura around a person carries a lot of information about us. I use my intuition to interpret the data and guide the client to the core issues. The key is openness and readiness to look at what may seem “unsavory” past experiences.

But to be clear, if the readiness isn’t there, Spirit won’t reveal the underlying problem or push you to work on anything you don’t want to work on. The process is a gentle one, filled with total acceptance and a feeling that Spirit honors each person for their willingness to courageously work on core issues to allow the healing to happen. All the while, the lovely Reiki energy is flowing to clear old detrimental belief patterns and spiritual/emotional blockages. At the same time, the energy is deeply calming and soothing. And the energy keeps working for days, and even weeks after the session is completed!

Experience the soothing and freeing nature of Reiki for yourself!

A good way to try out Reiki is the group event we call “Guided Meditation, Ear Acupuncture, and a Reiki Blessing,” which will be held this Sunday the 11th of February at 1pm. To learn more and sign up, CLICK HERE.

To read more about how Reiki can help treat anxiety, among other ailments, read this article from SHAPE online.

See you soon!